Inalienable

Inalienable • \in-AY-lee-uh-nuh-bul\ • adjective

: incapable of being alienated, surrendered, or transferred

I think we have all done it. I think we have all curled up in a ball, amongst a dark room and felt as if the world around us rested on our shoulders. We know that moment, the one where we look out into the thunderstorm, thinking that everything outside of this room is our responsibility, yet we have no control over it. That feeling is alienation, and it lies within each of us.

You see, by ourselves we can not be alienated from anything or anyone without the conscious effort and foresight to be alienated. Contrary to popular belief, we are not responsible for everything around us. We are responsible for us. Ourselves, our families, even our work lives only take place on the stage for which we build them, and thus we are not inalienable.

Each of us has the inherent ability to alienate others, and yes, turnabout is fair play. How do you treat others? How do you want them to treat you? What do you consider the in crowd?

These are questions that can only be answered by you. Personally, I would argue that my point of view as to the “in-crowd” was much different in my high school and college years. Today the “in-crowd” of my life consists of two boys under the age of ten, a 28 year old sales associate, and dear friends which have stood by my side through thick and thin, death and disease. My “in-crowd” is as diverse as I have chosen for it to be. No longer am I dictated by the clothes that I wear, or the blue and purple hair I once had as an unruly teenager. Today I am a piller amongst children who call me their god mom. I am an example to writers who like me struggle with their craft. Most importantly, I am me. Simple and secure in myself. I am inalienable.

It is inspiring to believe that within each of us lies the ability to put aside the thoughts and misconceptions of who we are, and redefine ourselves in the light of what we hope to become. It is inspirational to believe that as you read this, there is no one that can tell you who your are, who you should be, or how you should live your live. Others may shut you out, but in the end only you can be alienated by only yourself.

I can not allow ourselves to be alienated. I shall not allow ourselves to be controlled or even surrendered. I can and shall stand strong amongst even the most discerning of judges, knowing that at the end of the day, I shall be inalienable to others and an example to myself.